I think if we are aware of their feelings then we are doing a great job right there.
Im totally guilty of putting my feelings onto my kids at times but if we don’t tell them how we feel then they won’t understand empathy as it’s happening.
That and they need to understand that their feelings as well as ours don’t make us the centre of the universe. If we don’t tell them when we are struggling at times then they won’t understand why we may be having a bad day.
We are all just doing our best with what we have!