This resonates deeply. My daughter has been repeatedly bullied and we always admired her strength and so-called resilience to find a way to keep picking herself back up and keep going, u til she couldn’t. On the day before school started back she had a full blown panic attack when I asked her to prepare her things for school and that’s when I saw she had so much trauma and it became clear she wasn’t ok or resilient, she needed love, attention and help. And so now that’s where we are. In therapy and homeschooling. But that’s a story for another time